Please help. I have these fantasies about having a threesome or even more sometimes, but my boyfriend wants absolutely no part in it. What can I say to convince him? Would it be a mistake if i have one without him just to satisfy my urges? I do really love him and don't want to screw up our relationship.

The obvious solution is to have a threesome with another woman and let him fuck her as well. That's every man's fantasy. If he goes for that, do it again for good measure, then suggest a threesome with another guy. If he still doesn't go for it, try suggesting having sex with another couple.

[quote="stale25"]Please help. I have these fantasies about having a threesome or even more sometimes, but my boyfriend wants absolutely no part in it. What can I say to convince him? Would it be a mistake if i have one without him just to satisfy my urges? I do really love him and don't want to screw up our relationship.[/quote]

stale25 wrote:

Please help. I have these fantasies about having a threesome or even more sometimes, but my boyfriend wants absolutely no part in it. What can I say to convince him? Would it be a mistake if i have one without him just to satisfy my urges? I do really love him and don't want to screw up our relationship.

i have done both ffm and mmf and they were both amazing expierences but you both have to agree or else it cause trouble in the future

Discuss it with him again, find out what his concerns are and see if you can turn him around to the idea. Try watching some 3some porn with him, or let him find the woman to join you.

Keep things open and the discussions going, let us know how you get on!

I think 3sum is a nice fantasy and CAN be a great experience, but also it can hurt the relationship if both partners aren't open to it.

I (female) had an experience where I hesitated very much on doing anything like a 3sum but then my partner arranged a situation where his friend and us both got comfortable, and he encouraged me, well more like nudged me right into it!! So I ended up trying sex with 2 men. Physically it was really a huge turnon but afterwards I wasn't sure if I liked the fact that I had liked it, made me feel slutty and cheap. We did it again with same person involved, and again..now I worry that Im becoming promiscuous because when I see nice guys, I automatically wonder how they are in bed! One does get used to pleasurable adventures quite quickly..so be warned, lol!

Try talking with your boyfriend, maybe he is just afraid of loosing you or is jealous. If your boyfriend isn't open to even M-F-F experiments it may be that he has got a very oldfashioned upbringing and will never like such ideas. If this is true you must decide then how much you wish to fullfill your sexual desires, but I wouldn't go and have 3sums behind his back without his knowledge, this will hurt him and you can forget about the relationship.